Six Sex Myths Debunked
We’ve all been there before: 14, staying up late on Google, trying to figure out if the stories we were told about sex in hopes to scare us are true. What’s worse than being told sex horror stories, which are more often than not extremely misleading and can create anxious attitudes towards sex, is the lack of factual and sex-positive information that can be found online. Even today, it’s hard to find information than can be trusted from a reliable source. Everywhere we look, there are rumors about women always bleeding their first time having sex and when someone can’t get pregnant. These myths and rumors can lead to unhealthy decision making, unintended consequences, and we’re done blindly believing these myths.
Women always bleed the first time they have sex. False. Not every woman will bleed her first time having sex. This is a very common rumor that creates a lot of anxiety and stress for women when deciding to have sex. Bleeding can occur if the hymen, a thin membrane that partially or fully covers the opening to the vagina, is “torn” (more like stretched!) during sex. This can be painful, which is why foreplay and the use of water-based lube are so important! If the hymen is torn during sexual activity, bleeding is typically minor – a few drops at most! But sex isn’t the only cause for hymens to tear: intense workouts and improper use of tampons can also cause tearing, though this is nothing to worry about. A “torn” or “broken” hymen isn’t actually broken, but stretched out, and will go back to its original state.
Too much sex will make a woman “loose”. There is no such thing as a “loose” vagina. Like any other muscle – that’s right, the vagina is a muscle! – the vagina will tighten back up, even after sexual intercourse, tampon use, masturbation, and childbirth. Rumors about girls and women being “loose” has been a way to shame them for being sexually active and holds no truth.
Two condoms work better than one. Nope! Two condoms work just as good as none. Using two condoms at once is never a good idea. Even with the use of lube, the rubbing of the two condoms will cause the latex to tear, which can lead to unintended pregnancies and the spread of sexually transmitted infections (STIs). So contrary to popular belief that two condoms are twice as safe, it’s false, and can lead to some serious consequences.
A woman can’t get pregnant when she’s on her period. A commonly unknown fact about sperm: it can live inside of the vagina up to 5 days after sex. Even if a woman were to have sex while on her period, the sperm can remain inside of the vagina and eventually fertilize an egg! It’s important to stay protected and use condoms when having sex while on a period.
A woman can’t get pregnant if he pulls out before he ejaculates. A little known fact about the male reproductive system: there is something called “pre-cum”. Pre-cum is fluid that comes out of the penis during sexual activity. In some cases, there is a little bit of sperm still left from a previous ejaculation (if he hasn’t urinated between sexual activity), which can make its way into the vagina and fertilize an egg.
Condoms are “too small” to use. For years men have been saying that their penises are too big to use condoms as an excuse not to wear one. Let’s be real here: condoms are made of latex that is capable of stretching up a person’s arm. The condom will fit, and if it doesn’t, larger sizes are available. Being “too big” is not an excuse not to wear a condom, especially if the other person isn’t comfortable having unprotected sex.
There you have it: six of the most common sex myths debunked. Share this article with your friends, and don't be afraid to ask someone you trust about any other myths you may hear.