You Don’t Have to “Just Get Over It”

“Just get over it.” “Move on.”  You get the picture.  I’m sure you have all heard it a million times.

When something happens in your life that makes everything go into a tailspin, saying that you feel “lost” or “confused” or “alone” is usually an understatement.  You can talk people’s ears off for days about what has been going on, and your feelings about it, but more often than not they end up telling you to just try and get over it; or to move on, and forget it happened; or to just be happy and focus on the positives.

You and I both know that this is way easier said than done, right? Right.

Well I’m here to tell you that it’s perfectly okay to not get over it, at least not right now; or right away; or any time soon.

Everybody grieves at their own pace. Whether it’s over a relationship, a traumatic experience, or even something like grades-- really anything is fair game when it comes to emotions.

At the end of the day, nobody but you can decide when to get over something; and sometimes you really don’t want to get over it, and sometimes you also just shouldn’t yet.  Moving on from something that might not even be officially over yet is not a good solution either.  Everything happens for a reason and so you need to let things happen naturally.  If your heart is telling you not to move on yet, then chances are, you shouldn’t.  Listen to yourself.  Listen to your voice.  Do the best you can to take what everyone else says with a grain of salt.

In the hardest moments, you don’t have to always try and act like you are strong and have it all figured out.  Grieving is something we all go through.  Get it all out of your system, but don’t put yourself under the pressure of a timeline-- no matter how long that might take.  And guess what? No one really has it all figured out.  You’re never alone, no matter what.  You can do this.