Moving In Together - The Ins and Outs
1. Make it a shared decision
Moving out is a big step towards adulthood. Making it with your loved one is even a bigger one. It means you’re ready to take the next step towards stability and an even more mature relationship. Most of the time it’s also truly getting to know your partner and not only the cute side they show you during romantic rendez-vous. Have a serious and honest talk whether that’s what you really want for yourself and also for your relationship and not just one pressuring the other for personal reasons (like money for example).
2. Share the space equally
Moving out means creating your personal space somewhere else than your family’s household. You won’t feel at home unless you make the space your own. Decide together what kind of aesthetic works for the both of you and start from there, adding little bits and pieces to make you feel more at home, but leave some space so that your partner doesn’t feel like he’s just sleeping over.
3. Divide the housework
Doing boring chores and cleaning up your space is one of the downsides of adulthood but it’s not as bad when you get to dump half of the work on your roommate/S.O. Make sure you both do the work and it’s not one of you leaving dirty socks in their wake while the other is doing nothing but scraping the floors squeaky clean. Decide who’s doing what so that no one’s the victim.
4. It’s okay to want some “alone time”
Living together doesn’t have to mean spending time only with each other. It’s okay if you want to take a long bath and watch rom-coms by yourself or your partner wants the house for themselves and their friends every once in a while. You still love each other and we’re still just humans who need to recharge in peace and quiet. Being in a relationship is not slavery and your shared house is not a prison.
5. Conversation is the key
Talk, talk and talk! Being honest and open about your wants and needs is crucial. Don’t be afraid to mention what’s on your mind to your partner, even if it seems silly at first. If it’s bothering you, it’s not silly. Living under one roof creates all kinds of conflicts but rather than bottle everything inside till it explodes, you should bring it up and work it through together.