Being Unapologetically Boring is Self-Care
For the longest time, I’ve known myself to suffer from chronic FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). I could never say “no” to happy hours after work, day trips to the city, dining out with friends, parties, etc. I felt an unexplainable pressure to always say yes to invites with my friends and be out and about every weekend. On the off chance I did say no to an invite, I usually got scoffed at for not being “fun” and that I was “boring.” This pressure further encouraged me to self-destructive behavior, although not entirely harmful, it was still hurting me emotionally and mentally because I never gave myself a break.
As an introverted-extrovert, I enjoy socializing with others because of my inner extrovert, but I also needed alone time away from people because of my inner introvert. This inner struggle lead me to feelings of FOMO because as much as I wanted to be home sometimes and cut off from the world, I also wanted to be outgoing and socialize.
Then, I hit a point where I just completely took a break from it all. I stopped going out for drinks after work, hanging out on the weekends and essentially, saying no to all the things I feared I was going to be missing out on. I was trying to fulfill an unrealistic and unattainable standard of “fun” and it was not helping my mental state. Constantly interacting with people and their energies was and is, DRAINING. I need time to recharge, recuperate and center myself in order to be able to go back out and socialize with the world. Taking the time to put self-care first before pleasing others or because of FOMO is not only important, it’s vital to being the best version of myself.
Yes, I tend to like a routine and stay home a lot more than usual, I’m okay with the idea of being boring because it also means I’m making sure I’m giving myself time to regain energy. I tend to find myself in bookstores on weekends a lot either reading, writing, checking emails or organizing my planner. Other times I’ll spend an entire week going straight home from work just to binge watch shows on Netflix or clean and organize my living space. Although, this may seem like a boring time to others, it’s actually quite fun for me because it doesn’t require an insane amount of energy or much socializing. My idea of self-care may be entirely different from another’s, but I know what I like and what works for me. Of course, after taking the necessary time to be my most boring self, I always end up feeling pumped and ready to interact with the world again.
Not to say everyone is the same in this way, but it’s okay to be told you’re “boring” and to do “boring” things because it’s necessary. It’s the self-care that people in this age of technology forget to consider and actually practice. Being on the go 24/7 can be draining on the mind, body and soul. Don’t forget to take the time to give yourself that much needed break from the world or say no to an invite, even if someone calls you “boring” for it. Your future self will thank you for it.